Comments for The Pastor's Wife http://www.pastorswife.com Encouragement and resources for women married to ministers. Mon, 06 Sep 2010 12:44:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Comment on Weeds by aisa http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/07/weeds/comment-page-1/#comment-91 aisa Mon, 06 Sep 2010 12:44:43 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=312#comment-91 Hi. I just want to extend my deepest appreciation of this article you wrote. I have been browsing your blog entries and so far they are blessing me. Thank you. Hi. I just want to extend my deepest appreciation of this article you wrote. I have been browsing your blog entries and so far they are blessing me. Thank you.

]]> Comment on The Silent Killer by Tamara http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/08/the-silent-killer/comment-page-1/#comment-86 Tamara Tue, 17 Aug 2010 14:51:49 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=325#comment-86 reading this.., I see that I am not the only one that has gone through this, many other Pks have gone through this. ts a hard thing to see the people your parents have helped and loved like there own children abandon them, and hurt them, or slander them. I have realized being in ministry these are the things Pastors know there up against, but as there children we sometimes did not ask for this and our parents are not just only our pastors but our parents and its out of our own human nature to get hurt and it does effect us. I have held anger and bitterness and even unforgiveness, But God dealt with me many times. I had to learn not to take it personal. I pray everyday for God to keep my heart pure. As Pks we have to stay in prayer and look to God and know that he is our defender and we need not to defend our parents or ourselves. Thanks for sharing this Blog. reading this.., I see that I am not the only one that has gone through this, many other Pks have gone through this. ts a hard thing to see the people your parents have helped and loved like there own children abandon them, and hurt them, or slander them. I have realized being in ministry these are the things Pastors know there up against, but as there children we sometimes did not ask for this and our parents are not just only our pastors but our parents and its out of our own human nature to get hurt and it does effect us.
I have held anger and bitterness and even unforgiveness, But God dealt with me many times. I had to learn not to take it personal. I pray everyday for God to keep my heart pure. As Pks we have to stay in prayer and look to God and know that he is our defender and we need not to defend our parents or ourselves. Thanks for sharing this Blog.

]]> Comment on Ideas by Robinah http://www.pastorswife.com/ideas/comment-page-1/#comment-85 Robinah Thu, 12 Aug 2010 10:34:30 +0000 http://pastorswife.dreamhosters.com/?page_id=58#comment-85 Hello am married to a pastor with two growing churches and i need encouragemnet to find God's will where i really ned to stand as a wife to help him in the growth of the ministry. i reaaly wan to hear from you soon. Hello
am married to a pastor with two growing churches and i need encouragemnet to find God’s will where i really ned to stand as a wife to help him in the growth of the ministry.
i reaaly wan to hear from you soon.

]]> Comment on Power Struggles by a young pastors wife http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/05/power-struggles/comment-page-1/#comment-82 a young pastors wife Sun, 01 Aug 2010 19:55:22 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=279#comment-82 I don't really deal with power struggles as much as "clicks" or are they power struggles? I was very upset and thought it was only my idea and then I got to realize no it's not me this is really happening that at one prayer meeting it was so obvious and I was so upset when I noticed all those same folks are not allowing anyone to join thier little group that I was headed for the back door, but stopped when I saw 1 little older lady sitting all by herself looking over her prayer list and went and joined her, but I see this happening and don't know what to do> The thing I fear the most is I'll blow my top because it is really nauseating to me.We are in a 3 ministering team and me and my husband are associate pastors Theres no way I can talk to them as they're part of the "click" and 3 is a crowd. I feel I need to work on my attitude and deal with it or has anyone else had an experience in dealing with "clicks" and what did you do wondering? I don’t really deal with power struggles as much as “clicks” or are they power struggles? I was very upset and thought it was only my idea and then I got to realize no it’s not me this is really happening that at one prayer meeting it was so obvious and I was so upset when I noticed all those same folks are not allowing anyone to join thier little group that I was headed for the back door, but stopped when I saw 1 little older lady sitting all by herself looking over her prayer list and went and joined her, but I see this happening and don’t know what to do> The thing I fear the most is I’ll blow my top because it is really nauseating to me.We are in a 3 ministering team and me and my husband are associate pastors Theres no way I can talk to them as they’re part of the “click” and 3 is a crowd. I feel I need to work on my attitude and deal with it or has anyone else had an experience in dealing with “clicks” and what did you do wondering?

]]> Comment on Pastor’s Wife A, B, or C by Lynn http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/05/pastors-wife-a-b-or-c/comment-page-1/#comment-80 Lynn Sat, 31 Jul 2010 00:48:30 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=274#comment-80 I must say that this site, at least what I have read here is so refreshing. As a Pastor's wife I will say that I also have a call on my life, BUT I am also fully aware that I must fill my role as a Pasotors wife. I believe that far to many PW have left this post with the thought that the the PW of past is not needed in ministry today. Nothing can be further from the truth. The PW plays a vital role in the flow of the ministry; she offers if you will a softer side. What I miss as a new PW is that "1st Lady" to mentor to me the ups and down of this role. Where are the seasoned PW ? We newbies PW need to hear the bitter and the sweet; we need you to return to your post. I must say that this site, at least what I have read here is so refreshing. As a Pastor’s wife I will say that I also have a call on my life, BUT I am also fully aware that I must fill my role as a Pasotors wife. I believe that far to many PW have left this post with the thought that the the PW of past is not needed in ministry today. Nothing can be further from the truth.
The PW plays a vital role in the flow of the ministry; she offers if you will a softer side. What I miss as a new PW is that “1st Lady” to mentor to me the ups and down of this role. Where are the seasoned PW ? We newbies PW need to hear the bitter and the sweet; we need you to return to your post.

]]> Comment on Power Struggles by Sarah http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/05/power-struggles/comment-page-1/#comment-78 Sarah Thu, 15 Jul 2010 12:14:19 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=279#comment-78 Great blog! When we went into ministry we decided that because we are married and are "joined as one" that it was important to share with one another the "goings-on" especially with church stuff. I can't tell you how many times someone at church has told me that my husband agreed to such and such and they were lying. I would handle it by saying let's check. Another thing is people would ask me questions about other people or other ministry leaders. I'd always say something like: that I am not sure just go and ask them. Being in ministry is a life of a diplomacy! Great blog!
When we went into ministry we decided that because we are married and are “joined as one” that it was important to share with one another the “goings-on” especially with church stuff. I can’t tell you how many times someone at church has told me that my husband agreed to such and such and they were lying. I would handle it by saying let’s check. Another thing is people would ask me questions about other people or other ministry leaders. I’d always say something like: that I am not sure just go and ask them. Being in ministry is a life of a diplomacy!

]]> Comment on Power Struggles by Young Pastors Wife http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/05/power-struggles/comment-page-1/#comment-77 Young Pastors Wife Sat, 10 Jul 2010 16:32:21 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=279#comment-77 Experiencing this same type of struggle in our church right now. Knowing how to deal with these situations can often be very overwhelming. Thanks for your insight. Experiencing this same type of struggle in our church right now. Knowing how to deal with these situations can often be very overwhelming. Thanks for your insight.

]]> Comment on Pastor’s Wife A, B, or C by Ginger (TX) http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/05/pastors-wife-a-b-or-c/comment-page-1/#comment-74 Ginger (TX) Thu, 17 Jun 2010 20:12:55 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=274#comment-74 Hi Janice, My husband just surrendered to the ministry on May 27th 2010. I always knew that someday I would be a pastor's wife. When my husband called me from work to tell me, I was not surprised at all. The call was all over him and had been for some time. I guess I am the "Type C" since my husband was not even a Christian when we met. He accepted Christ in 2004 just as I started seminary. Six days after he became a Christian he ask me to marry him. He jumped in feet first and went to seminary with me. We were only taking the classes to futher our knowledge in God's word. Here we are six years later and I have to say my husband has grown by leaps and bounds in the faith and knowledge of Christ. I just want to be a good pastor's wife. I know that is down the road a bit. He is in our home church under great leadership and will have wonderful training. Just don't know how much training I will get in my role. However, I will press towards the mark and do my best for God. Prayer is much appraciated! PS: Loved your post! Hi Janice, My husband just surrendered to the ministry on May 27th 2010. I always knew that someday I would be a pastor’s wife. When my husband called me from work to tell me, I was not surprised at all. The call was all over him and had been for some time. I guess I am the “Type C” since my husband was not even a Christian when we met. He accepted Christ in 2004 just as I started seminary. Six days after he became a Christian he ask me to marry him. He jumped in feet first and went to seminary with me. We were only taking the classes to futher our knowledge in God’s word. Here we are six years later and I have to say my husband has grown by leaps and bounds in the faith and knowledge of Christ. I just want to be a good pastor’s wife. I know that is down the road a bit. He is in our home church under great leadership and will have wonderful training. Just don’t know how much training I will get in my role. However, I will press towards the mark and do my best for God. Prayer is much appraciated! PS: Loved your post!

]]> Comment on Power Struggles by Teri Brooks http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/05/power-struggles/comment-page-1/#comment-73 Teri Brooks Wed, 16 Jun 2010 19:03:18 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=279#comment-73 Food for thought. I never through about the advantages of such turmoil. Your honesty is refreshing. It is what it is. Thanks for being bold enough to give it to us "straight". You've got a new subscriber in me. :) Teri Please check out my site - GodsyGirl.Com. Food for thought. I never through about the advantages of such turmoil. Your honesty is refreshing. It is what it is. Thanks for being bold enough to give it to us “straight”.

You’ve got a new subscriber in me. :)

Teri
Please check out my site – GodsyGirl.Com.

]]> Comment on Pastor’s Wife A, B, or C by Mary (O'Neal) http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/05/pastors-wife-a-b-or-c/comment-page-1/#comment-72 Mary (O'Neal) Mon, 14 Jun 2010 14:17:59 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=274#comment-72 I seem to fit in type "B." This is timely however, in the fact that we are about to take a church. Currently, we are on staff at another church. My husband is one of 4 Executive Pastors. Though I can confidently carry myself as his wife, helping him in any way I can to fulfill God's call on his life, I am a little skiddish about being in that "1st Lady" role... Much more responsibility (which I don't mind) in things I have not run prior to now. Any advice? I just found your website and will be returning....I am a great proponent of mentoring. Young and old alike. Thanks for sharing your experience and wisdom! Mary I seem to fit in type “B.” This is timely however, in the fact that we are about to take a church. Currently, we are on staff at another church. My husband is one of 4 Executive Pastors. Though I can confidently carry myself as his wife, helping him in any way I can to fulfill God’s call on his life, I am a little skiddish about being in that “1st Lady” role… Much more responsibility (which I don’t mind) in things I have not run prior to now. Any advice? I just found your website and will be returning….I am a great proponent of mentoring. Young and old alike. Thanks for sharing your experience and wisdom!
Mary

]]> Comment on Peacemakers by Young Pastors Wife http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/03/peacemakers/comment-page-1/#comment-71 Young Pastors Wife Fri, 11 Jun 2010 18:06:09 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=261#comment-71 This thought really hit home for me. Just yesterday God really was challenging me in the way that I thought about people. People are just so pitiful. (Me included) I sat there thinking about a huge situation at my church that my husband (the Pastor) and I are having to deal with, and I was just so overwhelmed by how pitiful we as people truly are. I just starting talking to God. People were really bothering me, and I just simply asked God, "Why do you love people? We are so stupid, pitiful, and irritating!" In the midst of this conversation God really delt with my heart about loving people the way that He loves us. His love is so much bigger than I can even fathom. I don't know how he is as patient as he is. I cannot begin to understand why He even desired to love us. Yet, somehow I need to, no, I HAVE TO incorporate that love into my own life. I was raised in a family that were "peacekeepers." They would never confront a situation if it would cause conflict, yet as a pastor's wife, I am forced to confront situations at times, but this article has helped me to understand that that is not a bad thing! It's just learning how to be a peacemaker out of whom love constently flows. That is what I aim for. This thought really hit home for me. Just yesterday God really was challenging me in the way that I thought about people. People are just so pitiful. (Me included) I sat there thinking about a huge situation at my church that my husband (the Pastor) and I are having to deal with, and I was just so overwhelmed by how pitiful we as people truly are.

I just starting talking to God. People were really bothering me, and I just simply asked God, “Why do you love people? We are so stupid, pitiful, and irritating!” In the midst of this conversation God really delt with my heart about loving people the way that He loves us. His love is so much bigger than I can even fathom. I don’t know how he is as patient as he is. I cannot begin to understand why He even desired to love us. Yet, somehow I need to, no, I HAVE TO incorporate that love into my own life.

I was raised in a family that were “peacekeepers.” They would never confront a situation if it would cause conflict, yet as a pastor’s wife, I am forced to confront situations at times, but this article has helped me to understand that that is not a bad thing! It’s just learning how to be a peacemaker out of whom love constently flows.

That is what I aim for.

]]> Comment on Pastor’s Wife A, B, or C by Tonya http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/05/pastors-wife-a-b-or-c/comment-page-1/#comment-69 Tonya Mon, 07 Jun 2010 01:20:49 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=274#comment-69 Wow! You must know us personally! I am a "C". I actually did marry an electrician who had been a dedicated Christian for many years, and 3 years into our marriage accepted the call into ministry. 6 years later, we stepped out of the boat and began a brand new, non-denominational church. I was reluctant, but knew enough not to fight what God had ordained. Yes, life has definitely changed, and the uncertainty is difficult for those of us who like life perfectly planned. As long as I look up at Christ and not around at the unknown, I'm safe. Wow! You must know us personally! I am a “C”. I actually did marry an electrician who had been a dedicated Christian for many years, and 3 years into our marriage accepted the call into ministry. 6 years later, we stepped out of the boat and began a brand new, non-denominational church. I was reluctant, but knew enough not to fight what God had ordained. Yes, life has definitely changed, and the uncertainty is difficult for those of us who like life perfectly planned. As long as I look up at Christ and not around at the unknown, I’m safe.

]]> Comment on Power Struggles by Debra http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/05/power-struggles/comment-page-1/#comment-64 Debra Thu, 20 May 2010 19:06:42 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=279#comment-64 You are definitely right, there is always someone that tries to take the position that is not there's to take. And some are very manipulating, but you reap what you sow. I always respected our pastor's wife, never tried to cause her any heartaches, don't understand why someone is always trying to lower me. You are definitely right, there is always someone that tries to take the position that is not there’s to take. And some are very manipulating, but you reap what you sow. I always respected our pastor’s wife, never tried to cause her any heartaches, don’t understand why someone is always trying to lower me.

]]> Comment on Peacemakers by Heather http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/03/peacemakers/comment-page-1/#comment-63 Heather Fri, 14 May 2010 04:26:01 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=261#comment-63 Interesting article. I have served as a military peace keeper and as a military peacemaker. There is a huge difference. Today I am a pastor's wife. What surprised me was the similarities in Ministry and in active Military life. I was a Canadian soldier so I have served in several conflicts in a combat role. What I didn't know was how valuable the conflict management skills acquired in my military training would be in the church setting. Of course not all my military skills are an asset but many of them hold true. Interesting article.
I have served as a military peace keeper and as a military peacemaker. There is a huge difference. Today I am a pastor’s wife.
What surprised me was the similarities in Ministry and in active Military life. I was a Canadian soldier so I have served in several conflicts in a combat role. What I didn’t know was how valuable the conflict management skills acquired in my military training would be in the church setting. Of course not all my military skills are an asset but many of them hold true.

]]> Comment on Power Struggles by Heather http://www.pastorswife.com/2010/05/power-struggles/comment-page-1/#comment-62 Heather Fri, 14 May 2010 02:43:08 +0000 http://www.pastorswife.com/?p=279#comment-62 Power struggle are the most difficult issues we have in our ministry where my husband serves. I see him burning out from all the power struggles. Thanks for your article. It is about time someone named this issue. Yet another demon to keep us from doing God's work. Power struggle are the most difficult issues we have in our ministry where my husband serves. I see him burning out from all the power struggles.
Thanks for your article. It is about time someone named this issue. Yet another demon to keep us from doing God’s work.

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