Last night, Mike and I were watching the news regarding the latest fiasco of the rich and famous, specifically, this week, Tiger Woods. I was once again struck by how sad it would be to have your husband cheat on you. Infidelity rips a hole in the sacred fabric of a marriage that no matter how meticulously it is mended still leaves an indelible scar on the soul of those affected most by it. When a spouse cheats on their partner, they are sending many messages, but the core lesson is you are not important to me. And being the central, most important character in the story of a marriage is paramount.
When I think about everything a woman is seeking from her mate, the fundamental desire is the realization that out of all the women in the world, he chose you. Romance is good, laughter is wonderful, shared goals and dreams are essential, but knowing that he will choose you every time over everyone and anything standing is what gives us our security.
When a husband is a workaholic, the extra hours are not what cause the pain, it is that he chose his job over you. It does not matter what is substituted, the damage is caused because we have come in second place. And my heart went out to Tiger’s wife and every wife who has thought she had been chosen by her lover only to discover that he didn’t have the same definition of choose that she had. I still get a thrill when Mike walks into a room and our eyes meet. That connection reminds me that I am the one he is searching for first. That I am important to him. Each time it happens we reinforce our emotional bond.
This Christmas Season, dwell on the fact that you were chosen by God. That everything that played out down through the ages was done in order that you might be chosen by Emmanuel to be His love. And allow it to burn brightly within and comfort you. Blessed are you among women for God chose you.
Have a very blessed and Merry Christmas.
John 15:16 You did not choose me, but I chose you.